Nurse Betty BScN (cand): 'Twas the night before school starts...

Nurse Betty BScN (cand)

I am a 36 year old mother of 2. I entered university in 2005 for the BScN program but had no idea what a roller coaster ride it would be. My other interests are boating, cottaging, gardening, sitting, doing nothing, vegging and of course hard core belly button contemplating.

Monday, September 04, 2006

'Twas the night before school starts...

...and all through the house, not a creature was organized especially the 36 year old nursing student.
Oh gosh, where oh where did the summer go? I brought the anchors home today from the cottage. They are absolute heathens. They were filthy and couldn't figure out how to unlock the front door. They were so excited though to be home in their beds and to see their dad. I am glad that school starts tomorrow, I really just want to get second year over because everyone goes on about how hard it is supposed to be.
I am going to go to bed now and promise I will get back to you all about orientation on Thursday, wow what an experience that was.
g'nite
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Tuesday Night 11:43
above was a draft of the post from Monday night that I hadn't posted because I was hoping to make it more clever, my life right now is completely different. School is the last thing on my mind. My husband announced this morning 30 minutes before I was leaving for class that he wanted a divorce. I am losing my mind. I can't believe this is happening. I realize that now more than ever it is important for me to complete my degree but I haven't a clue how that is possible. He works crazy and quite unorthodox hours so the neat custody arrangements that most people have is out of the question, I will be left here raising two kids by myself with no support system from him. A friend spouted the old party line of things that don't kill us will make us stronger, my response was the things that don't kill us could also scar us for life. I don't know if I will be able to continue to post as my mind is so messed up right now. Thank you
Betty

6 Comments:

Blogger Wendy, S.N. said...

I am so sorry for you, Betty. I know you must have been totally blindsided.

I know that things right now seem impossible, and now will be the time to lean on anyone you can to make it through. I know that no matter what, your kids will come first. But if there is anyway at all to keep going, do it. You aren't on this journey just for yourself, but for them, too.

You are in my thoughts.

W.

11:19 a.m.  
Blogger Betty said...

Thank you Wendy, your kind and wise words mean a great deal to me and you were right I was blindsided. I am blessed with a couple of wonderful friends who are doing everything in their power to see me through this. It is very difficult to concentrate on school when I am worried about so many things.

1:17 p.m.  
Blogger hoosier student nurse said...

I am so sorry, but if it matters, I've been there. Mine didn't even tell me, just took every penny we had including my kids savings bonds, and walked out leaving me with a six year old and $1.63 in the bank. He called me two days later. I thought he was dead on the side of the road or had amnesia, but no, he used the money to pay for a lawyer to sue me for custody. I know it seems overwhelming, but you can still do it. What I did was get my sister to move in with me to watch my son while I was unavailable. Do you have any family or friends who are single who can move in with you (I dangled free room and board) just until you graduate? Friends were the biggest help, and if I needed someone to watch him asap, they always came through. YOU CAN DO THIS!!! I was in school full time, and if I had to study til midnight and get up at 5:00, then I just did it. One day at a time. I don't know if you'd have him, but it's very possible he will come crawling back when he find out how shitty it is out there, and especially, when he finds out how little money he has left after child support. Mine tried. I told him to go fuck himself. Get the best lawyer you can. Don't hesitate to ask your family for money. Mine saved me. I'm putting the stink eye curse on him even as I type.

4:27 p.m.  
Blogger Betty said...

Thank you Hoosier, no I don't have any single friends who can move in. My friends have asked if I want to move (kids and all) in with them. I am not above doing that and they may regret making the offer.

4:45 p.m.  
Blogger hoosier student nurse said...

They won't regret it. They really won't, so please, if financially it starts getting hard, let people help you. I wasn't working when this happened to me, and my friends and family saved me. When I worried about bills not being paid, my mom told me to look on the bright side...that it was all joint, and his credit was being ruined too!

4:52 p.m.  
Blogger Mandy said...

I just want you to know I am sorry. I wish I could give you a hug in person...

9:58 p.m.  

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